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IN THE COURT OF APPEAL (CIVIL DIVISION)
ON APPEAL FROM DARTFORD COUNTY COURT
(HHJ CADDICK)
Strand London, WC2 |
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B e f o r e :
LORD JUSTICE MOORE-BICK
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RE: W (A CHILD) |
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THE RESPONDENT DID NOT APPEAR AND WAS NOT REPRESENTED
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"... two intelligent, fairly strong-willed people, both of them. They have clear ideas as to parenting and other matters. They have been able to discuss and negotiate up to a point ... but even then the areas agreed were only reached after much pain, and, as each sees it, as a result of a controlling, manipulative and in effect emotionally abusive set of behaviour by the other parent."
So, on the judge's analysis, he was faced with two intelligent, competent parents, but two parents who could not, in the ultimate analysis, co-operate to the extent that was necessary.
"... how do the parents present to me? For me the mother presented impressively. She does understand what parental responsibility and sharing that with the father means. She desires the father to play a full and substantive part in [E's] upbringing, and that it is right of course that he should. Hence she agreed to as far as she could and probably further than perhaps her better judgment told her, but she agreed and has been prepared to stick to the 12 of 16 items in the parenting plan. But she did not go beyond that because genuinely she could not agree to those things. I have already given as an illustration of her recognition of the importance in real terms of father playing his part in that she did not just go off to the cottage in Yorkshire when it was offered to and suited her. One observes of course that she could well have done, perhaps when the child was a few months old, and the father's position would have been very difficult, I think it is fair to say, in opposing that, when the baby was still literally being breast fed and so young. But she did not do that; she recognised the importance of the father in [E's] life.
It is clear to me that she does seek flexibility in the arrangements and not rigidity, as rigidity and prescription can be, and indeed she feels have been and are, used as a weapon against her to the ultimate detriment of the child. I have to say plainly: I do not see in the mother, having read her statements and having observed her in the witness box at some length, the control and manipulation complained of by the father."
I pause there to repeat what I said at the outset of the judgment: that was the judge's impression. He alone was able to form that impression and there was plainly material in the documentation and in the evidence on which he could form it. But form it he did. His impression of Mr W was not so favourable. I do not wish to embarrass Mr W, who of course has argued his case in person this afternoon, by reading out at great length the judge's assessment of him. But it was less favourable than the assessment of Mrs W. He gave a number of examples of Mr W's conduct which he felt was somewhat rigid and controlling, particularly when he was himself giving evidence. Over about five or six pages of the judgment, the judge goes through aspects of the case in which he expresses the clear view that when it came to issues of practicality of sharing, of being able to co-operate in the context of shared parenting, he simply did not think that that was something which Mr W would be able easily to do.
"Now should the umbrella be, should the model of Order be Residence Order to the mother, contact to the father, or Shared Residence Order and then define no doubt the same periods for the father, but defining them as his share of residence. If it had not been for the views that I formed about the father's attitude towards the mother, and to the whole question of shared care that I have just rehearsed, I would have been much more disposed to the possibility that a Shared Residence Order might best meet [E's] welfare in the circumstances of this case. As it is, I come to the conclusion on balance that a Shared Residence Order would run the risk of feeding the gulf of antagonism between the parties, of being a weapon in the father's hands to prosecute the obsession with 50/50 parenting, night and day, to prosecute the power agenda and thus to feed the very thing that Mrs Kearney, and indeed anybody else looking at this, would wish to avoid. That is a situation in which as [E] grows she becomes aware of what is going on, that she is in the middle of it, and the risk of her feeling responsible for it. A Residence Order settling [E's] base with the mother would in fact the more closely fit the reality of [E's] present home arrangements and those that will obtain after a move, namely main base with mother but substantial contact with the father. Hopefully, particularly of course after the move to Cambridge and some distance between these parents, it may actually improve the relationship between them, for each would have additional freedom in their sphere -- or putting it another way, they would not be living in each other's pockets 300 yards away from each other -- there would be less opportunity for friction, because there would be that much less number of hand-overs, quite apart from anything else, there would be less concern about inconsistencies in what is going on in the day to day looking after of the child between in, say, a contact period or the child living day to day during the week with the mother, less opportunity, as it were, to attend and worry oneself with the details of what is going on in the other household, and hence produce and engender a more relaxed parenting climate."
The judge then went on to make a residence order in favour of Mrs W and define very carefully the extensive contact which Mr W should enjoy.
Order: application refused. Transcript provided at public expense.